Saying “no” has been on my list of goals for the past two years, and I have improved. People pleasing and doing things out of obligation instead of desire are two areas where I am practicing this art of “no”. Years of patterned events, behaviour and customs for us “people-pleasers” can take its toll, and the joy of serving others is replaced with resentment. Now I carefully choose with whom I spend my time, and I am thrilled to have such a diverse group of family and friends.
Who wants to spend their life feeling and doing things strictly out of obligation? I thrive on joy, love, fun and excitement. For those of you who’ve received an email from me, you may recognize this quote from Rumi, which used to appear in my email signature and is my personal motto:
“Set your life on fire; seek those who fan your flame.”
The real magic begins with saying “yes.” Are you confused yet? 🙂 First I tell you I am practicing saying “no” and now I tell you saying “yes” is magical!
Here is the difference:
Say ‘no’ when you are suppressing an eye roll to an invitation to spend time with people who are simply not in line with who you are, where you do not want to spend the evening with a fake smile and head nods.
Say ‘yes’ when your heart skips a beat, when you think “I can’t do that” because it is far fetched – be crazy enough to give it a shot!
Being open to new experiences, adventures and people is saying “yes” to what makes my heart sing. Yes is magical. Yes is scary. And yes opens up a whole new world of opportunities.
So what do you have to lose? Try saying yes to something new this week and see what difference it makes in your life and in the lives of those around you! Here are some suggestions:
Say “YES!” to…
Trying new foods!
Life is far too short to spend it eating meat and potatoes every night! Be brave: order something new the next time you are at your favourite restaurant or try a new recipe!
Volunteering in your community or at a fundraising event!
Meeting new people with a common interest/goal and giving back is a win/win. I have made amazing personal and business relationships through volunteering.
Signing up for a physical challenge!
Whether it is a 5 km fun run, mud run, marathon, bike ride, yoga or tai chi in the park, the energy and excitement are amazing. Registering will keep you on top of fitness goals and the accomplishment will make you proud!
Doing business in a new way!
I never expected my business to expand virtually through Skype the way it has, but I said ‘yes’ to trying. Likewise, with new partnerships, public speaking – which I had no experience doing, but said ‘yes’ anyway. Nothing ventured, nothing gained – and I have gained a lot thanks to being open to trying something new.
Something that scares you a little (or a lot)!
Like zip lining, tree topping or a midnight skinny dip, doing anything out of your comfort zone heightens all the senses. It is invigorating and freeing!
Practice saying yes to opportunities TODAY by grabbing one of my complimentary Style Success Sessions. I’m opening up just 6 spots on my calendar for these 20-minute sessions, and they’re first come, first served for the first 6 people who book one. When the last session is booked, I’ll be closing my calendar. Click HERE to schedule yours now!