Perfectly Imperfect

perfectly imperfectThe t-shirt arrived on my doorstep as a gift from my good friend… and I find it “perfect”. I wear it with great pride, and it is what I am wearing in the cover photo on my personal Facebook page.  Our joke regarding the phrase began while she and I decorated my home on two separate occasions: once for a baby shower and another for a Mardi Gras party. We both like the house to look perfectly imperfect when staged for an event!!

As a type A personality, Virgo and self proclaimed perfectionist, I began to think and have a silent chuckle at how many times over the years I have spent endless hours decorating our home so it looks magazine worthy, yet not so perfect to be on display in a showroom all matchy-matchy. Or countless formal styles or updo’s I did as a hairstylist, making my clients look gorgeous with an effortless elegance, yet spending an hour and cursing silently with a bobby-pin in my mouth to achieve this. Or how I balance a client’s outfit to look elegant, sophisticated and yet approachable and fun.

I had to ask myself the question: Why? Why am I, and others, obsessed with this “perfectly imperfect” style?

I’ve come to the conclusion it’s because we are all perfectly imperfect; flawed in ways that make us unique and more attractive to our family, friends and clients.

All of us were born into this world as beautiful, perfectly unique humans. I encourage all of us to embrace those imperfect traits we possess, whether it’s those freckles, the gap in your teeth or your carrot top. Learn to love that which makes you different!

I have found that the quirky little traits we own and perhaps shun ourselves, are usually the same traits our friends admire about us most, or don’t even notice. I used to be terribly self conscious about my toes, they are spread wider apart than the average person (kinda creepy), so what? I am not average, so why should my toes be? My thighs rival most men’s for thickness, but they are strong! And I have this obnoxious loud cackle – yes I said cackle! – and the occasional snort slips out as well, it’s horrifying! Yet, more people have told me how much they love my laugh and how infectious it is!

Let the perfectly imperfect YOU shine on!

In a world where Photoshop and filters serve to enhance our pictures, let’s keep those enhancements subtle, real, pure and fresh.

To end I will leave you with a quote to ponder.

“There is nothing more rare and beautiful than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me that is the true essence of beauty.”

~Steve Maraboli

Victoria Baird works with women in life transitions to discover their personal style, develop their personal image and brand, and build their self-confidence around their own natural beauty. Ready to kick your image up a notch? Schedule a complimentary Style Success Session with Victoria here.


DIY Closet Audit:

4 Fool-Proof Strategies to Transform Your Closet from Mayhem to Magnificent

 

What’s lurking in your closet?

Limp shirts, pants and skirts/dresses piled high. Footwear mismatched and tossed aside.  Clothes hanging or in bags with price tags still attached and tormenting you. Dresser drawers bursting at the seams.  No pun intended!

Now, double or triple that!

Many women have more than one closet full of clothes and wear only 20% of those items 80% of the time!  If your closet looks more like the zombie apocalypse than the last episode of The Walking Dead, it’s time to take action!

“We should choose what we want to keep, not want we want to get rid of.”

Marie Kondo, author of #1 New York Times best-selling guide, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up, tells us this. I totally agree with Marie’s perspective on de-cluttering any area of our life or home!

It’s Time for a Closet Audit

A wardrobe audit can be a time consuming and daunting task, but it should also be liberating and fun!

With spring around the corner now is the perfect time to clear out the clutter. You will have more options with fewer clothes, dressing will become exciting again, plus you will make room for those couple ‘must have’ items next season.

Okay, so you’ve committed to the DIY closet audit. Now where to start?

Have a “Go Hard or Go Home” attitude.

Be ruthless and realistic while keeping Marie Kondo’s advice to “keep only what sparks joy.”

Keep, Donate or Discard?

  1. a) DO set aside a full morning or afternoon to work on your closet – ALONE!
  2. b) DON’T try to tackle it bit-by-bit for an hour here and there.
  3. a) DO bring out all your clothing items, including footwear and undergarments, to be audited.
  4. b) DON’T leave any items to chance! Be sure to have all your laundry done before starting.
  5. a) DO keep items that fit well, flatter your body, and are in good shape.
  6. b) DON’T keep items that have been unworn for a year or more, do not fit properly, or are in bad shape.
  7. a) DON’T feel guilty about the items sitting in the donate pile.
  8. b) DO feel good about donating your clothes to those who are less fortunate – many will benefit from your generosity!

Alternatively – check out consignment stores to sell those higher-priced items that you’re having a hard time parting with because of how much you originally spent on them.

organized closet

An organized closet makes a world of difference!

A Few Extra Tips to Make Your Audit Go Smoothly

  1. Have a full-length mirror ready when you trying on clothing.
  2. Have several large garbage bags or boxes handy for items to discard or to donate. Be sure to get those donated items out of the house ASAP before you second-guess yourself or your decision!
  3. Last, but by no means least, enjoy the process of simplifying your life and personal style by keeping those articles of clothing that make you look and feel your best!

Struggling with your DIY Closet Audit? Schedule a complimentary Style Success Session with me here.