Less is more.

I was at it again yesterday, pairing down my own wardrobe with an extra 20 minutes I had between my lunch date and a client.

This spring had been so busy I hadn’t taken the time to purge myself, instead, my closet was a mess of shoes strewn on the floor, as well a handful of items to be donated and on the hangers a mix of winter items with spring/summer. I am almost embarrassed to add an unpacked box from when we moved in 9 months ago.

When I walked in to change my pants (it’s super small by the way and I am hoping for a closet system to organize better soon!) something snapped inside of me and I began to grab and toss items that needed to go.

The limited time added some pressure which made me more ruthless and thus freer by the end!

Two kitchen catcher garbage bags full and a few items my friend is happily taking – I was texting her some items during my purge I thought she would like, suit her well and appreciate since I had spent good monies on them.

We put too much value on pieces we spent good money on but continue to sit in our closet unworn.

So, how did I decide what stayed and what went?

Many of the pieces – the ones I spent more money on and still fit me well hadn’t been worn because they simply didn’t suit me anymore, so my younger girlfriend gladly took them and I feel good about that; they suit her at the stage she is at in her life.

The other items I was bored with, so they sit there waiting to be worn and not getting picked – so they went too!

I LOVE to purge. Having uncluttered space throughout my home, not just the closet feels great. So, it’s no surprise that over the next week every time I am waiting for the kettle to boil or dinner to cook, I will likely be cleaning out a drawer or two.

Is it time to re-evaluate your style and create a wardrobe that makes you feel fabulous every day? If you said HECK YES, sign up today for a complimentary Style Success Session and see how I can help!

 


Life Lessons Learned from My Cats

It was a cold winter night when my then boyfriend (now husband) came home after having a few beers with the guys from work (one too many…) with a beautiful black kitten he rescued from a shelter on his walk (stagger) home!

I make him sound worse than he was but truly he was a wee bit tipsy and giddy when he arrived at my apartment with Rita in tow.

Here’s the thing about love, it makes you do silly things. Things you may not have ever done yourself without falling in love with this particular person, like become a cat lover.

Fast forward thirty years to a sad Saturday morning when we said goodbye to Pepper, our beloved cat of 22 years. It was heart-wrenching. She lived with us longer than our son, any time she got sick she bounced back. Until she couldn’t or it wasn’t fair to ask her too.

It was weeks before I stopped reflectively checking the spot where her food dish was to see if it needed a top up. It was months before I felt the desire to fill the lingering quiet in the house.

One Sunday my dad called and asked if I was ready for a kitten. I was, Andrew wasn’t. Without his blessing, I said yes to my father about taking in a super friendly kitten that showed up at his door and two weeks later I was driving home with Tinkerbell in the back seat.

She was friendly, cuddled between us nightly watching Netflix in bed and she purred, holy cow she purred like no cat we had ever owned before.

She was happy. I was happy, Andrew was happy (although he wouldn’t admit it).

And then the morning of her vet appt I noticed how chubby she had gotten in the 10 days living with us.

Yep…

You guessed it; she was pregnant! One week later she had a litter with five kittens, all of whom we fell madly in love with, deciding to keep two ourselves.

 

 

Between momma and her two kitties, this last year has been a whirlwind. An endless battle between me with the squirt bottle and them strutting across my counters, using the furniture as scratching posts and thinking the window screens are for scaling like a mountain.

They have also infused our home with joy, laughter, love and lessons about life.

 

Here’s what I have learned:

1- Be curious. Too often we go about our daily life in a robotic way, doing the same things in the same ways with the same people. Take a different route to work, cook a new recipe, explore a nearby village on the weekend and for heaven sakes ask questions about things that interest you or that you’re curious about.

2- Make time to play. Today at my fitness class the instructor used a set of dice that indicated the time allotment and exercise we would do when one of us threw the dice. The workout was intense and more fun as we moaned, groaned and teased each other after our roll. For me play time might be Saturday mornings dancing in the kitchen to my 80’s tunes as I clean or thrift store shopping with a friend to see what gems we find.

3- Napping is NOT overrated. Personally, I am not a napper, but I certainly enjoy and brag about getting a full 8 hours of sleep nightly and on occasion 10. Sleep is essential for a good overall healthy life, if you can catch a cat nap during the day go for it!

 

 

 

4- Ask for what you want. Wishing for our success, desires or goals does little for the outcome. While I’m all about a positive mindset and dreaming big, it’s action that seals the deal. How often have you left money or opportunity on the table because you were too shy to ask for what you want?

5- Be persistent. If there’s one thing I have learned about life it’s that timing is everything. Don’t give up, be persistent. If at first you don’t succeed try and try again. Believe me, where there is a will there is a way!

6- You are worthy. Of love, affection, forgiveness, friendship and success. We all mess up from time to time. Our path isn’t straight, and our life isn’t meant to be perfect. Allow yourself to see the beauty of who you are the way our pets do. You are enough, you are worthy.

Reminding ourselves of these truths as we make our way through life can be a challenge. Sometimes we lose touch with our true identity, our authentic self. This is my personal invite for you to join Who Am I Now? a place and a chance to rediscover YOU! The woman you are meant to be.


(Surprise Getaway?) Learn what to pack like a pro?

The weekend getaway, whether with your sweetheart, girlfriends or the whole family is a well-deserved break from the regular day to day routine. I am always amazed a how refreshed I feel after a couple nights away and I don’t have a life I need an escape from! To me, travel or getaways is about exploring, discovering and adding new experiences to my life.

It’s easy to get carried away packing for a mini vacation, before you begin to pack consider:

  • Where are you going? What is the climate during your stay? Perhaps your sweetheart surprised you with a getaway weekend sans details, ask if you are going to a new climate, if they are tight-lipped, chances are they have packed your bag for you!
  •  What activities will you be doing!

Keeping in mind the questions above, all you need to do is pack a few keys pieces that will take you from day – to – night and versatile.

What to pack:

  • 2 bottoms (1 to wear for traveling, 1 packed; could be jeans, skirts, casual pants)
  •  3 tops (1 to wear for traveling, 2 packed)
  •  1 dress
  •  1 pair of comfortable shoes
  •  1 pair of dressy footwear
  •  1 set of PJs (could double for loungewear or workout clothes)
  •  1 jacket
  •  1 scarf, can be worn at neck, as a headband or used as a belt depending on length
  •  Undergarments and socks accordingly
  •  1 bathing suit (can double as a bodysuit under a pair of jeans or maxi skirt)
  •  Jewelry – keep it simple, diamond studs or hoops look great with everything, the bigger the hoop the edgier the look (add 1 statement piece if you want just in case!)

 

Depending on the time of year or what activities you will be doing here are some of my go-to pieces that never fail:

  • Dark denim jeans; daytime look is cuffed with sneakers, T-shirt & scarf. Think breakfast in a diner, checking out local markets and artisans or strolling Disneyland – evening look with silky cami, jacket, and heels. Great look for dining, theatre, night club or art gallery
  • Little black dress; seriously this perfect for almost anything! Casual daytime look with flats and scarf or add the heels and a smoky eye for an evening look
  •  Oversized white blouse; can be worn loose with jeans, sneakers, and scarf tied tightly at neck (think European women) or wear it tied at waist, with popped collar, with jeans or over a little black dress

 

My last recommendation is to have an umbrella handy. While they are easily found for purchase and even some hotels offer them to guests, I speak from experience in being caught in the rain a few times while traveling over the years and had to buy an umbrella during my getaway. I have a collection now!

These suggestions are good basics to build upon for longer trips. Because I am not currently looking at your personal wardrobe, I can only give advice based on what works for me and my clients.

If you find yourself stressing about what to pack and second-guessing what items to bring, let’s chat to see how I can help.


From Classic to Creative: 10 Evocative Special Occasion Looks

Whether it’s for a holiday party, a special occasion, or a last-minute “Want to meet for drinks?” invitation, you don’t want to have to fuss over your outfit.

With the hustle and bustle of life, you want to be able to open your closet and effortlessly pull together a memorable outfit that matches—and showcases—your style personality, right? Then all that’s left is hair and makeup, and you’re out the door.

Are you wondering if it could be this easy? Let me help!

Here are some elegant, festive outfit recipes that will keep you true to your style.

1. Reveal your dramatic style. Pick the brightest, boldest tunic top you own, and pair it with a leather skinny pant, a dark ankle-length jean, or a metallic legging. Throw on your most classic pumps, and call it party time.

2. Reveal your classic style. Black and white is always right. Gather your prettiest black and white items and mix and match pieces to see what plays well together. It could be a long black pleated skirt with a white satin blouse, or a column of black separates with a white wool coat or a black tuxedo pant with a fine silk and cashmere top. There you have it: a timeless look that’s always in style.

3. Reveal your funky style. Dress up distressed jeans with patterned or colorful pumps. Add a white silk blouse, and wear it open at the neck to show your statement necklace, dancing in the light. You’ll be dancing, too!

4. Reveal your feminine style. Wear separates in soft, blush tones. Mix up the fabrics to combine shiny finishes and matte surfaces for a lush look. Add your vintage diamonds. Absolutely irresistible.

5. Reveal your bohemian style. Layer a long ruffled sheer floral print dress over an above-the-knee slip. Add black fringed booties and chandelier earrings. Add one more favorite accessory. Your fashion statement is free and full of expression.

6. Reveal your minimalist style. Wear a black turtleneck, cigarette pants, and pointy-toed kitten heels and take the stage. Sometimes less is much, much more.

7. Reveal your creative style. Pull out a silk kimono and wear it with a slim-fitting turtleneck and patterned pants. Add fabric flats and a painted leather purse. You’re a pro at mixing prints, so go for it. Everyone will want to know more about you.

8. Reveal your glamorous style. Think movie-star glamour and pull out a faux-fur coat or cape to wear over a sultry red dress. Add hot-pink lipstick or a shade of red lipstick that blends with—but doesn’t match—your scarlet ensemble. Wear nude pumps to keep attention on your face. Heads will be turning.

9. Reveal your alluring style. Pull out a black leather pencil skirt. Add fishnet stockings and cheetah-print heels. Wear a sheer, billowy blouse with gathered cuffs. Add a couple of cocktail rings. It’s a look that exudes confidence.

10. Reveal your ’60s style. Wear high-waisted palazzo pants with a close-fitting short-sleeved angora sweater. Tie a small, subtly patterned silk scarf at the neck. Stack on bracelets or bangles. Be willing to share your Frank Sinatra playlist at the party.

Do you feel like your personal style is a combination of one or two of these looks? It’s not uncommon. I’d love to help you create outfits that not only match your style but also allow you to enter a room feeling like your best.

Call me – let’s chat about a service that’s right for you!


Dressing Up Denim

You’ve been invited to a party. The invitation calls for dressy casual. You have both dressy outfits and casual outfits in your closet but how do you mix the two? This gets my creative juices flowing and it’s where I have the most fun with my clients!

Would you be surprised if I suggested you start with jeans? Jeans aren’t right for every occasion, but with some fashion finesse, you can make them party ready.

Pretend I’m in your closet right now. Using your jeans as a base, I’m going to help you look through your tops, jackets, jewelry, shoes, and handbags for ingredients that will make you party-ready.

When you see your wardrobe through my eyes, you’ll be surprised at how effortless combing the two can be for a last-minute party invite. No stress dressing.

It all starts with the right jeans

Here’s a guideline for the best jeans to use for your casual chic or elegant casual outfit.

  1. The darker the denim, the dressier and more formal it is, which works well with the fancier items you’ll be wearing on top.
  2. If your party leans more to casual than elegant and you love jeans that are distressed in some way—holes or fading—plan to wear a dressy shoe.
  3. High-rise jeans are a great base. They’ll look great with any fanciful top or jacket.
  4. You could start with a denim jean that is coated, so it takes on a different hue. Or consider a jean with some elegant embroidery.
  5. Beware: dark indigo jeans can discolor lighter-colored leather handbags. Pay close attention to your handbag selection for the night. They can also stain any part of a lighter-colored bootie that they come into contact with.

 

Find unique jackets in your closet

Now let’s get to what you’re wearing on top. Jackets can play a crucial role in dressing up jeans. Leave your work jackets out of the mix for now. Focus on more festive choices and think outside the box.

This list of jacket styles will love to dress up your denim.

  1. Statement pieces like kimonos, dusters, Asian-inspired jackets, or vintage bed jackets
  2. Blazers in velvet, leather, lace or jacquard prints
  3. A tuxedo jacket
  4. Knit or woven jackets with fur trim
  5. A heavily embroidered or quilted jacket

 

Tops that are just right for going out

Look at your tops through a ‘dressed up casual’ lens. Do you spot tops that you may have worn in other parts of your life, but that would look well accessorized for denim outfits?

Here are some looks to consider.

  1. Blouses with statement sleeves like ruffles, ties, pleats, or ribbons
  2. Romantic blouses with lace or leather trim.
  3. A knit or woven or top in a bold, bright print
  4. A sheer print top with a camisole or bustier underneath
  5. A sweater with pearl or sequined details, or a cashmere sweater that is delicate or feminine

 

Jewelry selection is a must

If you’re wearing simple clothing pieces, then your jewelry choices will lift your outfit into a dressy casual party scene. Go beyond your tried-and-true everyday pieces. Consider vintage or crystal jewelry or any of your fine jewelry like diamonds, rubies, sapphires, and pearls.

If you’re wearing tops that are already sequined or jeweled, then your jewelry may need to back off a little.

Here are some ideas for using accessories to make your outfit sparkle and shine.

  1. Chandelier earrings or dangly earrings
  2. Statement necklaces or double or triple layered chokers
  3. A sparkly brooch or a collection of pins worn together
  4. Bold cocktail rings, rings on many fingers, or stacks of rings on a finger or two
  5. Cuffs or layered bangles that have lots of shimmer and shine
  6. Mixing in fine jewelry with costume jewelry

 

Shoes matter, both functionally and fashionably

You may have shoes in your closet that will only work if you’re sitting at a table, rather than standing at a table all night. Be careful. Know whether a two-hour shoe will work or whether or not you need to wear a shoe that you can dance in all night long.

Here are some shoe choices for nightlife.

  1. High heels or kitten-heeled pumps in patent leather, exciting colors, or fabrics
  2. Comfortable flats that have fanciful details like bows, sequins, ribbons, or applique
  3. Metallic flats or booties
  4. Velvet slippers, flats or booties
  5. Heeled sandals

 

Handbags need to be a lot more special than your workbag

For many gatherings, the purse you choose only needs to hold your lipstick, a credit card, some cash, and your smartphone. You may have cocktail handbags that you’ve used for years. I encourage you to take a closer look at them this year. Do they still look viable or does yours need an update?

Here are some handbag selections for your jean party outfit.

  1. Smaller crossbody bag with chain straps
  2. Fabric bags made with beautiful tapestry or damask fabrics
  3. Small framed bags including vintage bags
  4. A small handbag in an intense color or a metallic
  5. Hard, rather than soft, clutch in faux reptile

 

Could you use a few fancy casual denim outfits in your wardrobe? I’d love to help you assemble them, so you are party ready at any moment. Or maybe you’ve realized some gaps in the “party department” of your wardrobe. Let me help you discover them. We can set up an appointment and get this party started. Call me!

 


Holiday Party Etiquette

We probably all have a party story to tell—one where things went horribly wrong because of something an invited guest did or did not do. And while you’ve certainly never held the role of the unthinking guest, below is a list of dos and don’ts that will have everyone talking about your party skills—in a good way.

Do pace yourself with your alcohol consumption if you’re party hopping. You don’t want to be the subject of conversation the next day because of antics that started with a little too much to drink at the first party, and then definitely too much to drink at the next. Have a plan for moderation AND a drive home.
Don’t come empty-handed to a dinner party. Bring a small host gift. Although a big bouquet of flowers might appear to be generous, a small bouquet that can easily be placed in a Mason jar is a lot easier for the host to handle. If you know the host is a foodie consider specialty olive oils, homemade treats or a bottle of wine.
Do be prepared in case the host of the party has a no-shoe rule and forgot to mention it. You may want to get a pedicure if you come sockless in your pretty party shoes. Or, if you’re wearing boots with socks, make sure you’re sporting a pair that you’re happy to show off.
Don’t arrive to a dinner party with hunger pangs. You don’t know when the host will have food ready, and you most definitely don’t want to drink on an empty stomach. It’s always good idea to eat a little something before you go. A piece of fruit and some nuts or half a sandwich could get you by until dinnertime.
Do put effort into having a party-ready outfit that shows respect and honors the dress code, if there is one. Plan your ensemble well in advance of the party so you aren’t doing any last-minute panic shopping or—worse yet—calling the host and canceling because you think you have nothing to wear.
Don’t arrive late to a dinner party. The host has a set time frame for when they would like to serve the meal. Don’t keep them waiting. If the party format is an open house, your arrival time isn’t as critical. But showing up at the last minute is tacky. You may think your entrance goes unnoticed, but it doesn’t.
Do keep your fragrances to a minimum. Not everyone loves your perfume or cologne. In fact, some people are allergic to fragrance. Be mindful of the other guests and consider going without a scent altogether.
Don’t wipe lipstick off using your host’s cloth napkins. Consider wearing a lip stain instead of a lipstick. Or have some tissues in your purse or pocket. Use them to dab your lips before they touch the linens. You can always reapply later in the powder room.
Do offer your assistance if you bring a complicated dish or dessert to share. Help serve your dish if presentation is especially important to you. Don’t make this the job of the host.
Don’t be the guest that never goes home. Unless you are staying the night at the host’s house, think about your exit plan and execute it in a timely fashion once the party has begun winding down.

3 Ways to Wear Your Little Black Dress This Season

 

The most wonderful time of the year… if you have your #LBD.

The Little Black Dress. A classic that never gets old. It is always a good choice and appropriate for most all occasions. The #LBD can be easily adapted to the event, occasion or your style personality. I took one of my little black dresses and paired it with items I already owned to create 3 totally different looks to inspire you this holiday season, whatever your event or style personality. My hair, make up and simple earrings are the same for each look.

I started with a little black dress I found at a local thrift store for $20, paired it with a small crystal drop earring, the perfection foundation to create each of these looks!


  1. Casual Style: You have a holiday party this weekend but you would rather show up in jeans and a plaid shirt. You like to be cozy and comfy. Pair your little black dress with a pair of flats – the red adds a pop of colour & glam for the season, take a blanket scarf, fold it in half to create a triangle then drape the scarf around your shoulders, pull over slightly to one side toss excess over that shoulder and hold in place with a safety pin or brooch.


  2. Classic Style: Any chance to dress up and you are in! You like understated style, sophisticated and elegant. Bring on the pearls, layer up long necklaces and add a chunky bracelet. Hosiery is sheer black, medium height black pump and a soft coloured clutch add that air of interest to your classic look.


  3. Street Style: You are anything but average and don’t mind standing out in a crowd. Your style is edgy. Why would you wear anything but black? Add a choker, leather/ faux leather jacket, patterned or fish net stockings, kitten heeled booties and a studded clutch for the win.

 

This is my niche – my zone of brilliance. I live for re-working the pieces I’ve already got. Sometimes I’m surprised by the hidden gems I find in my own closet. I hope you feel inspired this holiday season to test out your #LBD and play a little dress up in your own closet.

 

 


Be a rule breaker.

Growing up I was taught not to wear white after Labour Day, it was considered a faux pas, a no-no, no one who was anybody would dare do it.

“Why fit in when you were born to stand out?” Dr Seuss

There is something so fresh and stunning in the absence of colour in choosing white as your base. I am always attracted to white vehicles thus the last three cars I have had were white.

No longer considered a no-no in 2018 wearing white year-round is classy, sharp and unexpected, because so many women are still hesitant to wear it. I think their mother’s voices still echo in their heads. Shhh, mom stop telling me what to wear I am a grown woman for heaven’s sake!

I give you permission to do it, break the rule and rock your style this fall wearing white, looking effortlessly chic.

Here’s how:

 

  1. – Consider the weight of fabric in regard to the weather. Unless the temperature is tropical pack up the super lightweight, crisp white pants and opt for a lined pair of pants and pair with a soft thin sweater for a cozy but classy look. The contrast of the fabrics in this picture is balanced beautifully.

  2. – Skip the flip-flops, strappy sandals or Birkenstocks and instead pair white jeans with a chunky peek-a-boo toe shoe, bootie or boot.

  3. – Choose a softer white, ivory or winter white for blazers & outerwear and leave the crisp white jackets for spring/summer. Do wear crisp white blouses or tee shirts, both are wardrobe essentials for endless outfit creations.

  4. – Black & white is forever a classic. When in doubt or shy about taking the step to wear a white bottom in fall/winter months choosing a predominantly white with black pattern is a nice compromise.

 

 


4 Ways I’m Combating “The Middle-Age Spread”

The first time I knew something was up was back in March. I was doing up my favourite red cocktail dress while getting ready for a fundraising event.

Thankfully, it’s a beautiful sheath dress, draped with an overlay, so only I could notice the difference.

Then, 2 weeks ago, while I was planning out which dresses to wear for some upcoming speaking events, it happened again and again. Four times, to be exact.

When my husband came home for lunch, I greeted him with:

“I need to go shopping! None of my dresses fit!!!”

Well, truth be told, yes I can do them up, but it’s not pretty, appropriate, or comfortable. And my audience certainly doesn’t need to see that I have a bellybutton ring poking through my clothes! (Although, I guess that cat is now out of the bag!)

I did not panic. I have not freaked out. Nor have I felt frumpy.

Don’t get me wrong, I was terrified that I might blow out a seam in that gorgeous red dress (it’s my all-time favourite!) whenever I sat down.

But I did not.

(Sidebar: sucking in my gut with all my power didn’t help)

The middle age spread.

It happens. In fact, it seems to have happened to me overnight, despite my activity level and eating habits.

I turn 48 this September and my metabolism is clearly slowing down – not that it was ever fast to begin with! My hormones are shifting and my body is preparing for the next stage in my life.

Yet, every morning when I wake up, I still feel like a young woman inside my heart and my head.

I know I’m not alone in feeling this way, but my years of training and experience in my industry have taught me some ways to tackle it that not all women are aware of.

So what can you do if, like me, the next phase of your life is barreling through the front door instead of knocking politely and patiently waiting until you’re ready for it? Here are 4 things I did (and am still doing!) that you may find helpful:

Step 1: Most important of all, I didn’t have a meltdown. Long gone are the days where I identify the woman I am by my dress size or the number on the scale.

Instead, I listed and gave thanks to my body for all the great things I feel about it, from head to toe. Things like my strong legs and lungs that allow me to cycle all summer long, for example.

Step 2: I did go shopping. I replaced a couple of key dresses that I wear to networking events and speaking engagements. I feel comfortable and confident in my new outfits and I didn’t break the bank, even though I hadn’t budgeted for this dilemma.

Step 3: I reached out to my friend, Heather, a Holistic Nutritionist who also owns the gym where I work out, and asked her to assess my diet in relation to the maturing woman I am today.

I weighed in 5lbs heavier than I was exactly a year ago, which was another 5lbs heaver than the year before. (Note: I don’t actually own a scale. The only reason I know these weights is because this time a year ago, I weighed in for a tug-of-war competition.)

No wonder my clothes “fit” but are super-crazy-uncomfortably tight!!

Ideally, I want to lean out 5-10 lbs so I can fit into the clothing I love, but I am not willing to be drastic. I enjoy my life, entertaining, drinking wine and late night pizza every couple of weeks. I am fit, active, happy and healthy.

After reviewing my food diary and workout plan, Heather and I talked about a few little tweaks in both my eating and workout habits for this stage in my life. I’ll keep you posted on my progress!

Step 4: Acceptance. It isn’t “do or die” for me to lean out. I love who I am and who I have become. I love my body and I choose to honour it as a sacred temple that enjoys a glass of Sauvignon Blanc or piece of home baked strawberry rhubarb pie on occasion. Life is too short not to!

Do you have questions about navigating this new stage in your life? I’d love to talk to you about it and perhaps give you some suggestions. Just click here to book a complimentary Style Success Session with me.


3 Tips for Exploring Your Mid-Life Awakening

I often say that when women reach their 40s, they don’t have a mid-life crisis; they have an awakening.

Or, at least, that’s what happened to me!

I was having way too much fun celebrating my fortieth year to stop and listen to the stirrings of my awakening but, by the time I reached age 42, there was no denying them any longer.

I had a good life, a happy marriage, a great business and social life, and yet I kept feeling the pull of the word MORE. I need to be MORE, do MORE, create MORE.

I ignored it for a while. “Don’t be greedy. Be content with where you’re at!” I would tell myself over and over again. I mean, who was I to think I could possibly have MORE?

But MORE took over. My curiosity and creative nature led me to do some soul-searching. I began to question my purpose and to realize which activities fulfilled me and which drained me. Ultimately, it led me to transitioning my career in the beauty industry as a master hairstylist and salon owner to an image coach and consultant – a move which has continued to allow me and my business to expand, blossom and grow. MORE!!

Have you felt the stirring?

Maybe the kids are off to college and you find yourself cooking the ‘usual’ Tuesday supper and thinking, I don’t even like tacos.

What do I want? What do like? Who am I now at this stage in my life? These are some of the many questions I pondered when I embraced my awakening, and you may be asking similar ones yourself. Here are 3 of the things I did to help find the answers:

1. Get off the hamster wheel.

And I don’t mean hop off for a quick 10-minute meditation and expect all the answers to your questions.

Stop, unplug, and listen.

Getting away from your usual surroundings works best. At the very least, take an afternoon off and go to a park or a secluded area on the beach, sit under a tree and just BE. No phone, no books, no magazine – nothing that will stimulate the mind. Just sit there or lie there, and breathe.

(That sounds glorious and scary, doesn’t it?!)

The brightest clarity and greatest ideas and ‘Ah-ha!’ moments have come to me when I’m not ‘thinking.’ Do bring a notebook and pen with you, and when your own thoughts, inspirations or ‘Ah-ha!’s surface, jot them down.

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2. Press play, record and erase.

Start to track how you feel in social groups, activity or club settings, and with people you are surrounding yourself with. Are you feeling stimulated, or drained?

Often, we just keep doing the same things we’ve always done because, well, that’s what we’ve always done!

If you find yourself bored or craving a different scene, that is totally OK. Having new experiences and meeting new people is exciting. Begin to explore by joining something new or reaching out to someone you’ve wanted to get to know better but is outside of your ‘regular circle.’

3. Find your inner child.

The popularity of adult colouring books is proof we’re craving simple ways to be creative again, like when we were kids!

Think back to the things you loved to do as a kid. How can you bring that into your life now?

When I explored this, 3 activities surfaced for me:

  1. Baking with my grandma: I’m still an avid baker!
  2. Playing “store”: Well, I’m an entrepreneur and I owned a spa.
  3. Entertaining/performing: BINGO! As a kid, I loved putting together dance or gymnastic routines with my friends for our parents, or singing in the school choir.

I’ll admit, I’m not the most graceful or musically talented, but it brings me JOY! So, when I got asked to join the community theatre, I said yes!

Now, I know that thinking about doing even one of these 3 suggestions can feel overwhelming. So many thoughts, fears, and reasons to not do anything can start bubbling up to the surface faster than we realizing what’s going on!

  • I have all this laundry to fold
  • Where am I going to find the time to do any of that? I already have way too much on my plate.
  • What if I find the answers I’m looking for, but my husband/parents/friends won’t support me?

Sound familiar?

This is why I am creating a program to help women navigate this life transition in the near future. To get more details about the upcoming program and be added to the wait list sign up below!