Has a wedding or event invitation ever left you confused as to what to wear? Themed events and parties are on the rise; Great Gatsby, Disco Glam or Back to the 80’s just to name a few!
These decade-themed parties are pretty straight forward, encouraging a guest to go ‘all out’ in an outfit or costume. Weddings, cocktail parties, galas, fundraisers and New Year’s Eve can be a bit trickier to decipher the language on the invitation. Here’s how to crack the code so you’ll never feel over- or under-dressed again:
Wedding Attire Etiquette
First rule of thumb: as a guest at a wedding, remember that today is ALL about the bride! The beautiful bride is the star, so dress and act accordingly. Although wearing black is no longer considered a faux pas, white should absolutely be avoided. Every religion and culture has customs and traditions; when attending a wedding outside your own culture, reach out and ask for specific guidelines. Your host will appreciate it and you will feel so much more comfortable!
“Dressing well is a form of good manners.”
This indicates a very formal event and usually means it is an evening affair.
For him: A tuxedo, a black bow tie, a cummerbund, and patent leather shoes.
For her: A long evening gown or a chic cocktail dress.
Formal or Black Tie Optional
This event is slightly less formal but still suggests dressing accordingly.
For him: A dark suit or tuxedo; conservative, not flashy.
For her: A long dress, chic cocktail dress, or dressy separates.
Semi-formal / Smart Casual / Dressy Casual
This one is a lot trickier to decipher! Take cues from the time of year and time of day during which the wedding or event is being held.
For him: A suit – light or dark, depending upon the season; colourful, trendy shirts and ties. A vest can also be worn as an alternative to a suit jacket.
For her: A cocktail dress, maxi dress, skirt with a top, or dressy pants and a blouse.
This suggests an elegant beach wedding, so dress to impress while still keeping sand and exposure to sun in mind.
For him: A summer suit with a linen shirt (no ties required), linen pants or khakis, and sandals.
For her: A maxi dress, a lightweight summery cocktail dress or a dressy sundress, and sandals.
Consider the purpose of the event when deciding what to wear! Jeans, t-shirts, and shorts are acceptable when a casual dress code has been indicated for a friend’s birthday BBQ or a Euchre tournament at the community centre. When it comes to attending a “casual” wedding, unless specified as acceptable on the invitation, steer clear of jeans and shorts!
For him: Dress pants, chino with button-down shirt or polo shirt.
For her: Dress, skirt and top, or a blouse with dress pants.
When in doubt, remember this advice from Karl Lagerfeld:
“One is never over-dressed or under-dressed with a Little Black Dress.”
Do you have questions about what to wear to your next special event? Schedule a complimentary Style Success Session with me!